Kara grew up wanting very badly to become a mother someday.
When she first became pregnant in 2017, she was overjoyed – though the circumstances weren’t necessarily “ideal.”
She was struggling financially and still “trying to find her way in the real world” after graduating from school.
Nevertheless, she was thrilled to discover she was expecting a baby, and she was prepared to make whatever sacrifices necessary to make it work and to love her baby.
Around week eight, something most young mothers never expect, happened: Kara woke up to heavy bleeding.
She was miscarrying.
She was heartbroken.
The baby she’d longed for and already loved would never lay in her arms.
It’s a shocking reality – a storm that millions of women weather.
Yet, when it happened to Kara, she felt completely alone.
In addition to the emotional and physical pain that accompanied her miscarriage, Kara felt an immense amount of guilt.
“Had she ‘done something’ to ‘cause’ this miscarriage…?”
She also felt confused.
When Kara went to a hospital to seek medical attention, she overheard the nurses referring to her miscarriage as “a spontaneous abortion.”
“Was she now ‘responsible’ for ‘inadvertently aborting’ her precious baby…?”
So many condemning thoughts swirled in her mind, and she was left to process – or, not process – them, alone.
The next year, right as Kara was “beginning to feel herself again,” she miscarried another baby.
This time, the guilt mounted into shame, and she “could barely live with herself.”
“Surely her body was ‘broken’…?”
“And it was ‘all her fault’…?”
Sadly, she wrestled with questions and thoughts like these, with no relief.
And yet again, not knowing where to turn for help, she suffered alone.
Later, in 2020, Kara became pregnant a third time.
This time, she learned almost immediately that her baby was growing outside of her uterus:
She was experiencing an ectopic pregnancy.
The pain – both emotional and physical – continued to mount.
When Kara found out she was expecting a fourth time – this time unexpectedly – she “knew” she “couldn’t go through the pain” again.
By this time, four years after her first miscarriage, Kara’s heart had become hardened to the idea of motherhood.
She decided to “get ahead of the pain” and schedule an abortion.
She reasoned with herself that, perhaps feeling like “she had a little control over the situation” would “help her process her loss” this time around.
But, by the grace of God, and thanks to your support of Heroic Media’s OAASYS Emergency Response campaigns, Kara was connected with OAASYS’s Pregnancy Help Center partner in Phoenix, Arizona instead of an abortion facility!
The center immediately offered free labs, ultrasounds, and counseling.
Over the course of the time spent compassionately serving Kara, her heart began to soften once again.
She was able to process her traumas, and came to realize that making the choice to abort would only multiply her grief.
Kara changed her mind about getting an abortion and made the decision to choose life and parent!
What a beautiful transformation!
Today, she has a healthy baby, and her story has been redeemed, from the inside out!
Psalm 34:18:“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”
Special Note: In 2019-2020, Heroic Media, at the request of Support After Abortion, commissioned Shapard Research LLC to conduct nationwide consumer research surrounding reproductive loss.
The research revealed the jaw-dropping statistic that 9 out of 10 women did not know where to go for healing after miscarriage, abortion, or other reproductive losses.
If you or someone you know has experienced reproductive loss and do not know where to go for healing, please do not continue to suffer alone!
Visit our wonderful friends at supportaftermiscarriage.com, supportafterabortion.com, supportafterreproductiveloss.com, or miscarriagehurts.com.
